The dump itself both a verb and a noun; it is the state of the cessation of a
relationship, whether simply dating and getting to know each other; a relationship that has gone
past the casual stage; or even marriage.
I like to think that there are basically three types of dump: the pre-dump, the date-dump, and the dump
The Pre-Dump
The pre-dump can happen anytime from the first meeting up until before you actually start to get nice and comfortable with someone. It could be before you ever have any sense of shared intimacy, or even after a couple of full blown-out mind-numbing experiences.
Normally, the pre-dump occurs when you just start getting to know someone, and for one reason or another, the communication just fizzles. Chances are, you don't fit into the mold that she wants you to fit in. Don't be upset, you are not water, and this is not an aikido class. It can happen after a few phone calls, a few emails, and/or a few dates.
The pre-dump will really just piss you off, which is why you never throw all of your eggs in one basket. Women are normally "auditioning" more than one man at the same time, so why shouldn't you do the same?
The Date-Dump
The date-dump can be very frustrating for some men, and if those men already have either some issues with women, or some anger management problems, then the date-dump can really be emotionally disheartening and possibly lead to some disastrous actions.
This dump is not to be confused with getting turned down by a woman that you met while you were already out. This dump deals with being dumped while on a date, or right after the date ends.
The worst manifestation of this date could be that the woman walks out on you and takes a cab home. Okay, it could also be bad if she was the one who drove and leaves your ass right there. Another bad scenario would be if she hooked up with another guy while on the date with you. In this case, if you were a gentleman and she went for some other guy, be happy; she would've taken you through some crazy drama sooner or later.
The Dump
This is a more defined scenario by the fact that you are into a groove with the woman. You are either in a committed monogamous relationship, marriage (which is not necessarily the aforementioned), or in a "relationship" where you and the woman have a defined set of rules of engagement between the two of you.
Being "released" from your contract at this stage is when it really hurts. This can be complicated by issues such as: you are living together; and/or that you have purchased some things together, whether they be real estate, furniture, or investment entities (a business, t-bills, etc.).
This whole scenario is worse if you are at a period that you have made some changes in your life (personal, social, etc.) to accommodate having this woman in your life as your "woman."
Dump Cycles
I started thinking about that book which was published in 2004 talking about "maybe he's not into you like that." When things like this hit the shelves, and are heavily promoted and talked about, there will be a ton of men that will be dumped. This is an example of what I would like to call the "publishing inspired dump cycle."
The caveat here is that women will dump a man when
things aren't working out the way that they envisioned, but the
fault lies in them. I don't agree with the issue that we are not
that into them. I think that for the most part, every time that
a woman interacts with us, she is afforded a chance to change our
opinion about her. It just that after so many chances that if we
saw no changes, we more or less write it off that it's going to
be exactly what it is, or even less.
However, the most important dump cycle to understand is the yearly one which consists of holidays and basic seasonal changes. Dumps occur at the beginning of spring as well as the beginning of summer, after Christmas and New Year's, and also before Valentine's Day.
The first two reasons deal with the ushering in of the new seasons is that women might be looking for something new, exciting and refreshing. Sure, you were cool to snuggle up with during the cold winter months as well as chilly autumn. However, they'll see what is now coming out with the spring thaw. Okay, we do the same thing as well, so can you really blame them for this?
The holidays are the other major periods. Before Valentine's Day ensures that you don't get too attached to her, and it also allows for her to potential spend that [magical (?)] day with someone else. Christmas and New Year's are also interesting; they get to measure up what you gave them and gauge that as whether it was worthy enough to keep you. If they are going to dump you, they might want to get their gifts first, and then dump you sometime in January; again before Valentine's Day.
Jewish women might dump you before Rosh Hashanah; not wanting to include you in their next year of life.
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